4 things we commonly say as people-pleasers & what we are trying to control
“i’m down for anything, i don’t really have a preference!” by agreeing to do whatever others want, people-pleasers might be holding onto control by preventing negative reactions or disappointment from others.
“it’s no big deal, no worries!” by presenting themselves as accommodating & without any inconvenience, people-pleasers might be trying to control acceptance and approval from others.
“i don’t mind. you decide.” by deferring decision making to others, people-pleasers might be trying to maintain a sense of control over how they are perceived by others—instead of the possibility of making the wrong choice or being seen as selfish.
“i’m sorry, it was my fault.” by assuming blame and apologizing excessively (even when it may not be necessary or justified), people-pleasers might be taking control by diffusing tension and maintaining a sense of peace and harmony.
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