9 signs of enmeshment in religious environments
9 signs of enmeshment (lack of boundaries) in religious environments & what they sound like:
overinvolvement in others’ personal lives: "i can't say no when someone asks for my help, even if it overwhelms me."
sacrificing personal needs for religious obligations: "fulfilling my calling (or other religious duties) takes up so much of my time”
pressure to conform to rigid religious expectations: "i’m afraid of being judged or told i’m wrong if i express my opinions that are different than what my church teaches."
lack of privacy and personal boundaries: "i feel uncomfortable thinking of the questions that will be asked in my upcoming temple recommend interview."
absence of individual identity outside of the religious community: "i’m tired of how everyone at church has the same interests & ideas but outside of my congregation i don’t have any other friends to spend time with."
guilt or shame for questioning or leaving the religious community: "i can't explore different perspectives or consider leaving because it's seen as a betrayal or sinful."
inadequate autonomy in decision-making: "i can't make important life choices without asking my parents for advice since they are able to receive revelation for me."
emotional dependency on religious leaders or figures: "i don’t know what to do about my job offer. i need to pray about it & go to the temple to try to receive an answer."
difficulty setting boundaries with intrusive religious practices: "i feel trapped because i have to conform to strict religious practices (like attending church each sunday), even if they cause me discomfort or stress."
not everyone experiences religious enmeshment in the same way. however, it is essential to reflect on our experiences, ensuring we maintain a sense of autonomy & establish healthy boundaries. by examining the influence of religion on our lives, we empower ourselves to navigate our spiritual journey with a balanced perspective as we embrace our personal beliefs & challenge unhealthy dynamics.
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